i) You still hang out with your friends and you start being part of each other's circle of friends. You get along well with each other's friends and are enriched by the experience. He trusts you to hang out with your guy friends and you trust him to hang out with his girl friends, even on a one-on-one situation.
This is the healthy, mature outcome to a relationship.
The truth is, most relationships will unfortunately go through, or worse, be stuck here in
ii)
Bubble Land. Man, this looks like something out of a seventies porn movie. I tried looking for a better picture, but I couldn't find one. Bubble Land.
The Cantonese term for Bubble Land is quite descriptive - 'leong ko yan ke sai kai' - literally, two people's world.
It feels to you like there's only the two of you in this world, and little by little, you build your world that way. You begin excluding your friends - calling or meeting up with them less and less or only when you're arguing with your partner, or, even more gagworthy is the need to include your partner in everything including those annoying 5 Things You Didn't Know About Me tag e-mail thingies:
1) What is your favourite colour?
Blue, because they're the colour of my boyfriends' eyes.
(Retch.)
2) If there was anywhere you could be in the world, where would you go?
Anywhere my boyfriend is.
(Nausea.)
3) If you had to choose between Brad Pitt, Tony Leung and Cristiano Ronaldo, who would you pick?
My boyfriend.
(Really? Now I have to vomit.)
4) Name your favourite song.
'You're Beautiful' by James Blunt. It is our song.
('You're Gross.' 'You're Disgusting', even.)
5) If you were stranded on a desert island, who would you bring with you?
My boyfriend, my boyfriend, my boyfriend.
(I'm sorry. My stomach is completely empty. I can't puke any... *bleaarrgghh!* Well, apparently I can.)
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The problem with Bubble Land is what happens when it bursts.
If you have, over the course of your love lifetime, neglected your friends and family, devoting your life only to him/her, then you will find that once the bubble bursts (ie. the break up), you've suddenly got nowhere to turn and no one to turn to.
Your self-imposed exile will mean now that you would have walked out from one prison into another.
So please, while it is beautiful inside this world for two, remember to keep in touch with your friends and do things normally with other people as well. It's healthy for the relationship and for you, ultimately.
And really, I can only vomit so muc.. *bleaaarrghh!*
5 comments:
HAHA eeee! omg
stop writing out my like, worst fears
and yes your picture looks rather dodge ahahha
"ohshoot i think that's me you're talking about!"
heheheh.
-gnod.
Ah, K Low! You'll be all right! This entry was never meant to scare anyone... Bubble Land is fine, as long as you come out once in awhile for air! Doesn't the couple look straight out from a romance book cover? Like a really bad one?
Gnod - Oops. Hahaha! What's said in the restaurant stays in the restaurant!
hahaha eeeks. nah i have commitment issues.. or it's the whole allure of the unattainable, sigh. marxist blood.
anyhoo p'heng i'm going to sippers! i checked out the website and it looks realllly nice (:
what tapas would you reccommend or is it all delish? we're a group of 3 girls so i don't think we can get the min 4 ppl banquet.. though perhaps i could eat for two.. haha!
K - I remember we had the prawns which were pretty good and the duck shanks is a must - feel free to experiment! I've never tried the banquet so if you do go as two people (haha!) then tell me how it was okay! Have fun!
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